Becca Mather Counselling
Together, we make sense of what’s happening in your brain and body so you can feel calm, confident, and more like yourself again.
Hi there, I'm Becca and I help mums and mums-to-be transition into motherhood, as they go through the emotional, mental and identity shifts of becoming a mum, so they can feel grounded, calm and connected again.
I became a mum back in 2017 where I suffered from Hyperemesis Gravidarum. After the birth of my daughter, I experienced postnatal depression and OCD. Becoming a mum gave me a sense of purpose in me and I had always had an interest in psychology so I enrolled in a college course in counselling skills. In the final year of my Foundation Degree, I fell pregnant with my second child. Suffering from Hyperemesis Gravidarum again, but this time being bed bound for 4 months , I decided to choose to work with mums who were just like
me.
How I Support Mums:
Pregnancy Anxiety & Emotional Distress
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Fear during pregnancy
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Loss of control or constant worry
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Previous trauma affecting pregnancy experience
High-Risk Pregnancy / Severe Sickness
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Traumatic or medically complex pregnancies
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Severe pregnancy sickness (HG)
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Emotional and physical support from someone who truly understands
Early Motherhood Emotional Adjustment
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Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or exhausted
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Sleep deprivation and emotional strain
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Managing stress while adjusting to a new life rhythm
Identity & Life Transition Support
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Exploring who you are becoming as a mother
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Reconnecting with your body and autonomy
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Understanding shifts in relationships and support
Motherhood changes everything and yet somehow you're expected to still feel the same way. Matrescence is name for the transition into motherhood. It is the shift from who you were before your baby and who you are becoming now.
Many mums arrive here feeling lost, disorientated, stressed, anxious and grieving the person they once were. Others feel ashamed for struggling and believing they should be coping better by now. If this is you, I want you to know nothing has gone wrong and you are not a failure - this is Matrescence and it is so often unsupported - this changes now.
In our work together, we gently explore the identity shifts that Matrescence and early motherhood brings:
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Emotional regulation & Stress management- reduce anxiety, overwhelm and self criticism
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Re-mothering yourself- learning to nurture, validate and protect the younger version of you
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Unpacking childhood patterns- understanding how family dynamics, trauma, and learned coping strategies shape your parenting
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Body awareness & embodiment- reconnecting with your body after birth
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Identity exploration - shedding outdated versions of yourself and reclaim autonomy
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Relationship navigation -understanding shifts in your relationships and support
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Parenting from presence, not pressure - moving from survival mode into concious, compassionate engagement
If you feel on edge, tearful, shut down or like you're always holding it together, you're not failing, your nervous system is doing what it needs to, to survive. Motherhood places huge demands on us. Nervous system regulation isn't about getting it right or calming down it’s about your system feeling safe enough. In our work together, we support your nervous system to move out of survival mode, at a pace that feels manageable for you. When your body feels safer, everything else, emotions, thoughts and relationships become easier to navigate.
If you are interested in working together, I offer a free 20 minute telephone call where we can talk through what is going on for you. If this sounds good, fill in the form below or email me at: beccamathercounselling@gmail.com